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Why Your Kids Should Not Be the Most Important Members of the Family

 

 Who is more important parent or child?

Contrary to the popular belief, children are not the glue that holds a family together. It is actually the parents who are the most important part of a family.

If parents are asked the question about the most significant members of their family, their answers are almost always the kids. However, this approach is not the right one and can even lead to potential problems in the household, as it was recently found.

According to Northwest Arkansas Gazette, the main concept is that parents believe that their marriage and family are surviving solely because of their children. This makes their marriage and relationship lose meaning as if the only reason they are together is their child.

The publication wrote parents need to understand that it is actually them who hold the family together and play the most crucial role. Without them, their children would not have the necessities and luxuries of life that contribute to make the household a happy one. Hence, if parents were not there, children could live a desolate life. 

Another major reason why the concept of making the children the most significant part of the family is wrong is due to the possibility that the idea could make them feel entitled. This might make them grow up to be very demanding people who will not work hard enough for what they want. Neither the child nor the country as a whole needs this idea to be instilled in the minds of the kids.

In earlier times, when the parents were considered the most important part of a family, the relationship of a household was much stronger than today, according to Huffington Post. Family dinners were revered, parents loved and talked to each other more and everything had its own due significance in the house.

Today, however, the idea that children are the utmost priority, everything revolves around them. One way or another, everything is connected, making the essence of other important things in a family invisible.

Who is the most important people in a family?

John Rosemond
I recently asked a married couple who have three kids, none of whom are yet teens, “Who are the most important people in your family?”
”!Like all good moms and dads of this brave new millennium, they answered, “Our kids
“Why?” I then asked. “What is it about your kids that gives them that status?” And like all good moms and dads of this brave new millennium, they couldn’t answer the question other than to fumble with appeals to emotion.
So, I answered the question for them: “There is no reasonable thing that gives your children that status.” I went on to point out that many if not most of the problems they’re having with their kids — typical stuff, these days — are the result of treating their children as if they, their marriage and their family exist because of the kids when it is, in fact, the other way around. Their kids exist because of them and their marriage and thrive because they have created a stable family.
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Furthermore, without them, their kids wouldn’t eat well, have the nice clothing they wear, live in the nice home in which they live, enjoy the great vacations they enjoy and so on. Instead of lives that are relatively carefree (despite the drama to the contrary they occasionally manufacture), their children would be living lives full of worry and want.
This issue is really the heart of the matter. People my age know it’s the heart of the matter because when we were kids it was clear to us our parents were the most important people in our families. And that, right there, is why we respected our parents and that, right there, is why we looked up to adults in general. Yes, Virginia, once upon a time in the United States of America, children were second-class citizens, to their advantage.
It was also clear to us — I speak, of course, in general terms, albeit accurate — our parents’ marriages were more important to them than their relationships with us. Therefore, we did not sleep in their beds or interrupt their conversations. The family meal, at home, was regarded as more important than after-school activities. Mom and Dad talked more — a lot more — with one another than they talked with us. For lack of pedestals, we emancipated earlier and much more successfully than have children since.
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The most important person in an army is the general. The most important person in a corporation is the CEO. The most important person in a classroom is the teacher. And the most important person in a family are the parents.
The most important thing about children is the need to prepare them properly for responsible citizenship. The primary objective should not be raising a straight-A student who excels at three sports, earns a spot on the Olympic swim team, goes to an A-list university and becomes a prominent brain surgeon. The primary objective is to raise a child such that community and culture are strengthened.
“Our child is the most important person in our family” is the first step toward raising a child who feels entitled.
You don’t want that. Unbeknownst to your child, he or she doesn’t need that. And neither does America.

?Why are kids important to their families

CHILDREN are the future of a family and our hidden treasures. When they are born, they are welcomed into the family and as they grow they learn different things from their parents. These lessons include respect for each other and life in general.
Unlike in the past, today’s parents allow their children to make choices about things they would or wouldn’t like to do .However, back then parents made all the decisions about a child’s life. Parents believed that children must be taught life skills if they were to survive in life. This meant that a larger part of a child’s day was occupied with work.
That was then. What about the kids that we raise today? Do they carry out the same responsibilities like children in the past?
In some areas of Rwanda, a child as young as five can run errands, fetch firewood and water as well as herd cattle. As they mature they are considered important and responsible people in the family.
Boys are taught to help their fathers with basics like roofing the house, preparing the fields for planting and tending the livestock. They were trained to understand the role of the house head, which they will lead as they grew and got married.Girls on the other hand work very closely with their mothers. This trains them to run a house hold when they grow up.
Through gardening, cooking and preserving food, tending to younger children, cleaning and running the home, girls are prepared to manage their future homes.

Putting your child on a pedestal

Putting children onto a pedestal means that the child is being valued, but almost in a novelty sort of way… a pedestal makes it easy to observe the child, but not necessarily with the intention to truly listen. The pedestal is also a good way to individualise children and isolate them from each other (or anyone put on a pedestal) it makes it harder to share the limelight… and times this can be a very important thing as many voices together are more powerful than one voice on a pedestal.

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